Swigg Advice Column- Ask Your Relationship Questions Here

 

Ok girls—have you ever noticed that sometimes a guy will tell you one thing but then his actions contradict what he is saying?

 

Here are two examples that Swigg girls shared with us to help you evaluate what might be going on in your own relationship. 

 

 

So in my case my special guy (we’ve been dating for 8 months) keeps telling me how important I am to him and how much he is falling for me. I was starting to feel the same for him. He keeps telling me that he can’t wait to take me out every weekend and how he will call me or text me.  

 

While he says all this stuff, he acts totally differently. Like last Friday, we had a great night out and went to the late show. In the car he said how much fun he had and how he would text me when he got home and email later that night and on the weekend.

 

Two days later, I was still waiting around wondering if he was hit by a bus-- or if I did something to hurt his feelings or turn him off.

 

When he finally did call, I asked him where he’s been without asking him directly why he didn’t call.  He responded that he hasn’t been doing much and had just been hanging around the house playing video games and watching TV. 

 

You can imagine I was confused—did he forget that he told me he would call or text? Was he being a huge jerk? Am I being too sensitive and should I back off? Or, is something else going on? What do you girls think about this?  I would love some advice!

 

 

I went out with an older guy (two years older)  that was always pushing me to go further than I wanted to. I would move his hand away when we were kissing but he would try again and again… and again. One time he said to me “ can I tell you how much I love that you’re the type of girl that moves my hand away”. At the time, I didn’t have a good come back for him as it was a confusing statement, but I should have said “why are you the type of guy that keeps trying to push things forward when I am clearly telling you I’m not ready” Is it just a guy thing to want more and more or should he be respecting what I want? 

Help me Swigg!